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In every country, there are traditions or customs that every citizen or person does. Some don't follow it already since this a new generation and some still do it up until now. In the Philippines, there are lots of customs, and one of those is the child/ children will support or turn the favor to their family when they have their jobs already. And these custom that comes from the forefathers, and was carried through this new generation of the family. Some families don't do this thing, and most of these families are well-off and have their own stable lives, wherein there's no need already to ask for help from their siblings or their children.
If you date a Filipino woman with a total package, like who does have a job and is independent enough, I think the money wouldn't be an issue for both of you, especially from the family or relatives. She would consider that you both have jobs and can sustain the needs of each of your families financially. But if you dating someone who doesn't have a job and who's dependent on her family, I think there would be some issues that both of you will be going to talk about, much especially with financial matters. I'm not generalizing that all Filipino woman who comes from the lower level class will have an issue with money, but I'll tell you, there will be some women whose experiencing this kind of issues.
It would depend on both of you whether the woman would want your help or would receive help from you. Communication will always be a key when there are big issues to tackle. If you are a man who doesn't want to support or help neither her nor her family financially, then I advise you that at the very beginning of your conversation, tell her that you will never support or give money while the two of you are dating, that the only thing you could offer is your utmost love and care. Because the moment you will send money through her family or relatives, I'll tell you, the word "enough" is not on their vocabulary already. Tons of reasons that they will tell you just to ripped off money from you., and you will end up being miserable. But if you are a man who doesn't mind offering something through your woman, then the choice is yours already, just don't blame the woman after your month/s or year relationship if what she's after at you is your money alone and not love.
Consider your long-distance relationship as a normal dating like what you can have or what you have experienced in your own country. Don't be blind by the sweet words, physical appearance, pity-self gesture, and promises as well. Be wise enough and be careful.
